I’m Learning How to Love Myself

Before I begin this, allow me to express my gratitude to my motivator because with their songs I learned to Love Myself, Thank you for my idol, my support system, Bangtan Sonyeondan, BTS.

“You've shown me I have reasons
I should love myself oh huh
내 숨 내 걸어온 길 전부로 답해

(I’ll answer with my breath, my path)

어제의 나 오늘의 나 내일의 나

(The me of yesterday, the me of today, the me of tomorrow)
I'm learning how to love myself
빠짐없이 남김없이 모두 다 나

(With no exceptions, it’s all me)”

BTS – Answer: Love Myself

Love Yourself.

Do you love yourself? Sounds easy right, you can confess that you love yourself but sometimes you are still not grateful for what God has given you. You are still not confident about your body shape, you still often blame yourself, you are too obsessed to make yourself not okay. Doesn't your heart not feel relieved by all that? Loving ourselves is one of the keys so that we become a happy person.

I gave the above BTS’s song quote not without reason. The Love Myself song has a deep meaning, so that everyone can love themselves, acknowledge whatever has to be recognized because everyone applies a higher standard to themselves. Love Myself teaches you to start forgiving yourself and learning to love yourself.

For some people loving themselves is actually not an easy thing. They are difficult to express and even respect themselves, for example after doing work that is not as expected. Those who do not love themselves will feel that if they fail, they should appreciate themselves because they have tried to achieve that hope. It is easier for everyone to love someone than to love themselves.

I was a person who was very strict with myself. I used to be a very ambitious person, because in the past when I went to school, my environment was people who had above average intelligence. I always pressure myself that I must be able to surpass them. I felt that I could not enjoy life. I didn't realize at the time that I also had a maximum limit. My life has become irregular. Sleeping and eating hours are a mess. I messed up. In addition, I used to have a bad habit, which is very easy to think about what other people say. I am not confident in the color of my skin. I was afraid to “speak up”. I always wear a “mask”. Its make me created a distance between me and my friends.

Until finally I realized, what I did first was a big mistake. I try to eliminate all my bad behavior little by little. Indeed not easy. There must be a strong intention in ourselves. Making peace with yourself is a very appropriate way. Accepting that the mistakes and bad things that are in us are still part of us and we deserve. Making peace and forgiving ourselves will bring us happiness and calm. Accepting everything and making peace will help us love ourselves more easily.

Being forgiving to ourselves will lead us to realize that we have strengths, that we also have something beautiful and amazing to be proud of. Loving yourself is indeed more difficult than loving others, but loving yourself is a must. Sometimes people forget that loving and appreciating oneself makes it easier for us to be loved and valued by others.

Now, I learn to love myself. I learned to enjoy this life. I learned to always be grateful for what God gave me. I learned not to compare myself with others. I will always think positive and take the time for my pleasure. May be there’s no answer. May be this isn’t the answer either. It’s just that loving myself. Doesn’t require anyone else’s permission. Because, I LOVE MY SELF.

I may be a bit blunt, I may lack some things

I may not have that shy glow around me

But this is me

My arms, my legs, my heart, my soul

20th and Happy